It was the best choice to make, but it would have been great had I known of the potential issues she might have had and the ways to help our child through it ahead of time.
The reality is no one can predict how a divorce will impact your kids.
That is, the innocent spouse has been abandoned by his/her unbelieving spouse or has been cheated on by an unrepentant adulterer.
In either case, the innocent spouse is mostly likely in a state of emotional turmoil and vulnerability.
Let's start with the bad news: You're on the road to divorce.
But the good news is that romance, love and, yes, even marriage doesn't need to end with divorce.
Now that I'm nearing the end of the divorce process (it's a marathon — not a sprint!
), I'm starting to reflect on the things I wish I had done differently or, perhaps, the things I wish I had known before getting a divorce, period.
In light of these experiences, here's my compassionate and informed advice if you're thinking about jumping back into the dating scene, and perhaps even if you hear wedding bells ringing in your near future: • If you've started your divorce process, honestly evaluate how your separation or divorce is going. Further, consider how your spouse may react when he or she finds out you're dating.
This means that the people involved are hurting on a very deep level, and are probably not in a position to think in a completely rational manner.
So when you’re dating someone going through a divorce, you might have to shoulder more than your usual share of keeping things sane and cheerful.
And while I'd never want to throw cold water on a budding romance, I have some words of wisdom that I'd like to share.
I have an immense amount of experience helping individuals and couples make it through the divorce process. You want to lay the groundwork for a new, strong relationship while you're in a "good place" emotionally, psychologically and perhaps even financially, too.